Are Your Children Your God?

Many times, I see parents who put their children above everything; above their other children, their marriage and their relationship with God. These parents are sometimes referred to as ‘helicopter parents (however I call them child worshipers) as they persistently hover over their children, micro-managing their every activity. These parents pay close attention to every detail of their children lives trying to shield them from every Injury, failure and most importantly, rejection. They want ‘HAPPY KIDS’ and believe pastors, teachers and others should pay attention to their children in the same “helicopter” way.Research by professors at Brigham Young University indicate that, despite their good intentions, helicopter parents’ overprotective nature might be the reason their children sometimes skip class and turn in assignments late.

Professors Laura Padilla-Walker and Larry Nelson studied 438 students from four universities around the country. About one-fourth of the students reported that parents “make important decisions for me.” And about one-third of the parents reported that they make important decisions for their children.

In their analysis of the data, Padilla-Walker and Nelson found that this seems to backfire in terms of school engagement. As they write in the October 2014 issue of the Journal of Adolescence, this is about more than just homework.

“It would seem that emerging adults should be personally invested in their own growth and development by solving their own problems with roommates, making their own decisions about employment, and seeking their own help from professors,” write the study authors. “By not doing so, emerging adults may be robbing themselves of the experiences and practice necessary to develop skills that are essential for success in marriage, careers, and adult social interactions.”

So, let’s look at some of the ways parents treat children as their god by asking this question “Are your children your god?”

1. Your time with your children keeps you from personal worship, prayer, and bible study?

2. When your need to make your children happy keeps you from appropriately disciplining them.

3. Your children are an excuse for not going to church or serving in the church.

4. When your identity is found in your children to the point that you are easily puffed up or easily shattered based on your children’s actions.

5. When your children’s activities become a barrier to you sharing your faith or interacting with your community.

6. When you live in constant fear for them, often losing sleep, and irrationally trying to over protect them.

7. When you use your kids to make yourself look good.

8. When you need your kids to like you so you give them what they want out of a fear of rejection.

9. Your time, energy, and focus says your children mean more to you than your spouse.

10. You easily become offended when others don’t treat your children special.

And there are so many more questions we could ask, however, the biggest question is “Where is your trust?” I recall my wife telling me how she felt I was too hard on our boys, how I didn’t worry enough or was at times harsh with them about things she felt were trivial. I would then remind her that someday our boys would be the head of their households, employees, husbands and fathers. I had to allow them to fail so that they in turn would learn how to overcome in times of adversity and I had to be harsh with them so they would be accountable for how they were as head of their households, employees, husbands and fathers. I had to show them that my trust was in the Lord for their wellbeing, as we often would pray over our children, lay hands on them and anointing them with oil, we would declare the word of the Lord over them.

“The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; The Lord lift up His countenance upon you, and give you peace.” (Numbers 6:24-26).

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)

Now may the God of peace who brought up our Lord Jesus from the dead, that great Shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, make you complete in every good work to do His will, working in you what is well pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen. (Hebrews 13:20-21)

Rather than hovering over and worshipping your children, speak life into your children and equip them for the ups and downs. Equip them for the successes and failures of life. Equip them to be good employees, husband/wives, fathers/mothers and citizens, both in the natural and the spiritual. The word of the Lord says;

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

So, I’ll leave you with this final question, where is your trust?

“… But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15  

 Pastor Jose

What Image Are You Living And Giving?

I’m sure by now most people have heard the phrase garbage in garbage out but what exactly does that mean??? Kind of like how Pastor Victor has been preaching about becoming and not becoming a part of our culture. We literally become what we consume and I’m not talking food. I often tell my girls even if someone chooses not to stand for God they’re still standing for something.

Listen to the lyrics in a lot of the songs today. There’s a whole lot of sadness, confusion and anger. That is not where God calls us. We as a culture, a public, a human race are allowing ourselves to be deceived and many are so lost they don’t even hear what they allow themselves to be subjected to. So now we have garbage in but what goes in will come out. What image are you living and giving?

“Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:5-6‬ ‭NLT

There is power in the name of Jesus!

In today’s world so many people are running to other things such as drugs and alcohol and then wondering why they have so much anxiety going on in their lives.

Have you ever thought about pursuing His power? When we pursue the Lord’s power, oh, how it changes things. When we pursue the Lords power, His words become an encouragement to us that could bring us out of anything we are going through or dealing with. It changes our perspective on life because His words bring life.

“Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭12:25‬ ‭NKJV‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

I lead Tuesday morning prayer at our church. I believe there is so much power in prayer yet we only have about 10 women who come faithfully to pray. The greatest and most powerful weapon God has given us, as His children, is prayer. It’s sad to say there are but a few that use it daily. Why is that? Do Christians not believe in prayer or its power?

God said if we ask, He will do according to His power. Have you ever asked God to do something by faith and you truly believe God could do it even though it looked impossible? We recently had baptisms at our church and one of the men that was getting baptized said he didn’t know if he could be there on time due to his job. He said that it is impossible to get time off this time of year. So, I told him we were going to pray and pursue God’s power in this. He thought getting to church in time to be baptized was impossible but prayer changed everything. He got there on time to get baptized with the rest of his class, and was greatly blessed by the event. What a testimony to the power of prayer. Amen!

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, Ephesians‬ ‭3:20‬ ‭NKJV‬‬‬‬‬‬

New Wine Fellowship Prayer Services:

img_3241Prayer Warriors meet every Tuesday morning at 10a.m.
Men’s Prayer Service Monday Nights at 7p.m.
Watch and Pray every other Sunday Night at 6p.m.
Pre Service Prayer Sundays 9:45a.m and Wednesdays 6:15p.m.

Cecila

Biblical Voting 

As I am writing this we have less than two weeks until we vote for our next President of the United States. The noise that surrounds us is deafening. I’m married to a political science major so it’s not unusual to hear multiple people on different stations at once. As I’m typing this the house is quite. Hubby is gone, the TV is off and so is the radio.I need to hear what the Lord is saying.

Don’t misunderstand me. I believe that we need to be an informed person. We are to be aware of the information that is or isn’t out there. I just know that God is in control.

The Lord has a peace that passes all understanding. Just as we need to vote, we need to rest in the arms of our Lord. In Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and loaded down with burdens and I will give you rest. Place my yoke on you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble, and you will find rest for your souls, because my yoke is pleasant, and my burden is light.”

My confidence is in the word of God. My rest is in the word of God. My strength is in the word of God.

I’m not basing my decision when I vote on mans opinion but on what my God says. What does His word say? What does He say??

Debbie Searing 

A Boy and His Cheerios

On a recent motorcycle trip through the Smokey Mountains my riding partner and I would spend each morning in the hotel eating area enjoying breakfast and going over maps of our rides for the day. We would observe and sometimes interact with others rushing to get their day of travel started.  
One morning I noticed a mother enter the very crowded room with two children in tow. A young daughter of about six and a younger son of about four. A few moments later I nearly tripped over the small young boy who was stooped down in the middle of the crowded room with a Styrofoam bowl of dry cheerios that he had spilled all over the floor. In the midst of the flurry of activity around him he was patiently attempting to pick up the mess he had created, one Cheerio at a time. While what must have looked like giants maneuvered around him, threatening to step on him and on his mess, making things worse, the little boy patiently continued to pick up his Cheerios.

Our table was the closest to him so as I set my items down I grabbed a map and returned to the little boy. Setting the map down I helped him use it as a dust pan and together we brushed the Cheerios up onto the map and return them to his bowl. Making sure that the boy would throw the Cheerios away I noticed and nodded to a thankful mother who was busily assisting her little girl.

Upon returning to my table the thought occurred to me that that is just how God is with us. So often, in spite of our best efforts, we make a mess of things. Sometimes our mess looks impossible to clean up, like picking up 40 Cheerios one at a time in a crowded room. As we quietly go about our way attempting to clean up our own messes we are acutely aware that what appear like giants around us are threatening to make our mess worse.  

 It is at times like this that we need to remember and stand on the Word in Psalms 46:1 “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in time of trouble.” Our God sees our troubles and will never leave us or forsake us. Also we must be aware of those opportunities that show up when we can be used by God to do His work. While we frequently never give it a second thought, we need to take a moment to humbly thank God for putting us in positions to help others in their time of need.

Mike

 

A Nation Under God

Now is the time for every Christian to arise and let their voices be heard across this nation!
It is crucial for every Christian to join together as the body of Christ and not allow someone else to decide our future for us. Our future depends on our prayers and actions. It is time for us as Christians, to use our voices. We have the right to vote and use our voices to express our faith.

 Isaiah 60:1 (NKJV)

Arise, shine;

For your light has come! And the glory of the Lord is risen upon you.

There is one GOD and His truth endures to all generations. Since our great nation was founded on great Christian values (IN GOD WE TRUST) let it be known that we are a nation that will turn to God.

This nation struggles today. Our leaders in government have forgotten the real meaning of IN GOD WE TRUST.

• Once we were prosperous and blessed

• Once we were a strong nation

Look at what’s happening in our schools and places where the Bible has been removed. Let’s welcome GOD back into all areas of our nation. Enough with the empty promises, don’t we know that all the power and glory belongs to GOD?

Proverbs 3:5-6 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

Frank

 

 

A Sincere Heart

Psalm 15:2
He who walks uprightly, and works
righteousness, and speaks the truth in
his heart;

Those who live with a
heartfelt, whole and caring heart
are people that live blameless lives
and do what is Right!!!
Always speaking the Truth from a sincere heart.

Sincerity is Heartfelt and whole hearted.

This is what the Lord has put on my heart.
To Love with a Sincere Heart!

Sincerity of the heart is:
Honesty
Genuineness
Truthfulness
Integrity
Trustworthiness
Faith, purity
Patience, kindness and
Responsibility
Accomplished with the Holy Spirit that is within us.

1 Peter 1:22 (ESV) Having purified your souls by our obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart,

1 Peter 1:22 (Amplified) Since by your obedience to the Truth through the [Holy] Spirit you have purified your hearts for the sincere affection of the brethren, [see that you] love one another fervently from a pure heart. Sincerity is seriousness and honesty. If you do things with sincerity, along with patience and compassion, sincerity is one of those qualities we all probably wish we had more of.

Amen
In Jesus Name

God Bless
Carol Colon

Gods Timing 

I’ve been asking God for quite some time to bring to me the opportunity to write. I have always loved writing and He was inspiring me with all kinds of inspirational messages that I longed to put on paper. But I gave up when an opportunity didn’t come during the time I was expecting it, so I went on with my busy life.Many years later I have now been approached to write for the blog for the church site. My first reaction was EEEEEK, not right now! It’s such bad timing. Truth is, I never have time for anything beyond MY four walls. Sadly, while God is a part of my everyday life, HE isn’t always FIRST. (Which is more than likely why I always seem so short on time!) So here I’ve asked Him for something, put it on the shelf and then wanted to say no when it showed up!

It’s in God’s time though, not mine. I often forget HIS time is always more important than my time. In fact, my time wouldn’t exist without Him. So, now I have two lessons here:

1. Gods timing, not mine! Do not pass up the blessing you have been waiting for!  

2. Why are you so busy you don’t have time for God when He calls you to something?

This has stopped me right in my tracks and God is whispering; “here is your opportunity now what are you going to do with it?” Hasn’t He always been there when I needed something!?! God calls us to be working hands and feet in the church. So here I reflect and write about this opportunity and lesson in one. God hears us and He is a Good God.

Never give up! Wait patiently! Be willing when he calls you to action! 
“Finishing is better than starting. Patience is better than pride.”

Angela Vanek

Fishers of Men

Watching my daughter fish on the lake out back this summer has been quite a joy. She got the fishing gene from her grandmother, my mom. It’s something that I didn’t get, but one I can appreciate. My daughter can stand for hours at the edge of the lake, even after she has worked all day, and cast her line into the water over and over as she tries to catch the “big one”. With each cast there’s an expectation of hope that she will bring in a fish. The size doesn’t matter. It’s the success of the cast that matters. She rejoices over every fish she brings in. 
Isn’t this exactly what God looks for from us? God has put each of His children in the ‘pond’ that is His Kingdom. And, He has provided us with all the equipment we need to ‘fish’. But unlike fishing in the natural world, He has provided an unlimited supply of people we can fish for. So many beautiful colors, sizes and types are out there. Some are docile, some fighters, others want us to think they are ignoring the tantalizing ‘bait’ we have put in front of them when we know they aren’t. But, as every good fisherman knows, patience is a requirement for success. If we get anxious and reel our line in too soon, before the bait is actually claimed, our fish loses interest and moves on. If we aren’t attentive, our bait can be taken, and the ‘nibbler’ wanders off before the hook can be set. Either way the ‘fish’ gets away. A loss for both them and us. It’s our job as ‘fishers of men’ to learn how to be the best fisherman possible. It’s not enough to have the best gear, although that does help, we have to learn all about the fish so every cast is successful and no fish gets away.

Jesus knew that fishermen would understand how to catch people for the Kingdom. As He said to Peter: Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:19. Jesus had watched the men he called from the sea as they fished for a living. He knew they had skills and knew how to seek out the fish and to learn their patterns in order to be successful. As fishermen, they must have been thrilled to move on to fishing for bigger ‘fish’. Jesus knew that life-long fishermen would know how to apply their skills and knowledge of fishing into catching people for Him. And He was right. When Peter was sent out to fish on his own, after Jesus had ascended to heaven, 3000 people were caught in one day. Now that is one successful fishing trip!

These days I watch my youngest child fish our little lake out back. But, I believe that one-day God will let me see her ‘fishing’ God’s earthly waters that teem with’ fish’ that she will catch for the Kingdom. For now, I’ll continue to enjoy watching her fish at the lake edge while I fish in the Kingdom and wait for the day when we’ll fish together for God.

Deni Fortuna

When My Thoughts Wage War

Statistics show that a person has on average 50,000 – 70,000 thoughts per day. Whether those thoughts are negative or positive is another story. In the last couple of years, I’ve become more aware than ever about the management of my thought life. I’m still managing it, and I don’t think it’ll ever stop.

Why does it need to be managed in the first place?

Fear, doubt, anxiety, insecurity, lust, pride, false assumptions, and anger, just to name a few of the reasons why my thought life needed and still needs to be held in check.

These are a few things that I know many of us have experienced and have had thoughts about:

“What if I’m rejected?” 

“I’ll just fail again.” 

“It’s not like I’m really cheating.” 

 The danger comes when those thoughts get a relentless grip on our heart as they temporarily appease our emotional state. Thoughts become seeds of identity and behavior in the bed of our hearts. “I’ll just fail again,” leaves you locked in a frozen state of fear ultimately insuring nothing gets accomplished and prematurely aborting something great. Even if what you accomplish is solely the lesson from failing, you can’t really call it failing then, can you? 

 Intentionality is key here. I remember coming to my Dad with a situation regarding my fear and anxiety and he gave me gold that I’ll keep for the rest of my life. He said, “Rebuke it, in Jesus’ name.” In essence he handed me 2 Corinthians 10:4-5, “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ…” Two important things here: I brought Jesus to the table, and, I realized I really did have control over what I allowed to be embedded in my heart.

 So, here’s an easy process to begin to take control of your thoughts and walk in victory. Addressing your thoughts, ask: Does this line up with the Word of God? If not, ask yourself why it’s affecting you the way that it is. What’s at the root of the thought. Then, reject the thought in Jesus’ name. Period. And finally, fix your mind on the opposite. If fear comes knocking, thank Him for courage. If false identity and insecurity knock, speak His promises over your life. You’re formed in the image of Christ and a child of God, not a slave to fear. I think you get the idea. 🙂

 Most importantly, spend time in His presence. A song I’ve been ministered by really explains it. “Prince of Peace” from Hillsong United, recently released on their Empires (Of Dirt and Grace) album, has been wrecking me every time I hear it.

“Your love surrounds me 

When my thoughts wage war

When night screams terror 

There your voice will roar”

Needless to say, I highly recommend it. The words couldn’t ring more true. Let His love surround you as you walk in victory and defeat every lie of the enemy.

 Victoria Torres